God Inspired Her

Heartbreak can leave us feeling shattered and alone. It may stem from divorce, a breakup, or losing a cherished relationship. The hurt and turmoil our heart can feel is life changing. It changes who we are and how we deal with living out our entire lives.

Heartache can shape how we deal with our family, friends, and coworkers. How we handle life situations. Sometimes the effect of this sort of pain makes us build walls around us. We do this to protect ourselves. We want to shield our hearts from never feeling this pain again.

Yet, in our pain, we can find hope in the Word of God. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” This verse assures us that even in our darkest moments, God is near, ready to heal our wounds.

The term “brokenhearted” in Psalms 34:18 is translated from the Hebrew word “shabar” meaning to break or crush, and “lev” meaning heart. This combination emphasizes a deep emotional and spiritual anguish.

Three Powerful Steps to Heal From Heartbreak

Acknowledge Your Pain

The first step in healing from heartbreak is to acknowledge your pain. It’s essential to recognize your heartbreak is real and valid. Allow yourself to feel the emotions you are feeling. We often try to suppress our emotions of sadness and anger. We stop the tears from flowing. We mask our pain with smiles and laughter even though it is a facade. I have found myself doing the ugly cry, on hands and knees, crying out to God. Letting go of the throbbing ache of my heart out. Sometimes we need that good cry to wash away the soreness.

In Lamentations 3:19-20, “I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall. I well remember them, and my soul downcast within me”. It’s okay to grieve the loss of a relationship. To be “in your feelings” as people say and recognize what your heart is feeling. By acknowledging your pain, you open the door to healing. You are accepting where you are in the moment. You know you are ready to find a remedy for your distress.

Once those feelings are recognized, it is therapeutic to think about what the relationship meant to you. Identify lessons learned from this reflection. With my last divorce, I thought about what the relationship meant to me. It meant love, support, and understanding at times. I also took the rose-colored glasses off and saw all the things we did incorrectly in the marriage. I came to a realization of my mistakes and what I should have done better. I learned so much about compromise, communication, and how not to lose myself in a relationship in that particular marriage. Lessons I have took with me to make my future relationships even more unbreakable.

Seek Comfort In God

Once the pain is accepted and life lessons are identified, seeking support is the next appropriate step. Seeking comfort in God is essential in your healing process. Psalm 147:3 states, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Turn to God in prayer and pour out your hear to Him. Surround yourself in His word to heal you of your wounds. Here are some scriptures that you can say and help you in your prayers.

• Isaiah 41:10 ” So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.” In times of heartbreak, God is our refuge and strength. He desires to console us and provide the healing we need.
• 1 Peter 5:7 “Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.” This encourages us to bring our burdens to God. Seeking his comfort in times of distress.
• Psalm 30:5 “Weeping may stay for the night, rejoicing comes in the morning.” This verse offers hope that sorrow is temporary and that joy will return.
• Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” This beatitude is blessings recounted by Jesus in the Gospel of Matthew. It comes from his sermon on the Mount. It acknowledges the pain of loss while promising divine consolation.
• Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” This encourages prayer as a means of finding peace midst of heartbreak.

Share your feeling with trusted friends or family. Having a support system to listen and depend on will help in troubling times. Also seeking professional counseling can help if you don’t feel comfortable going to your loved ones. For ones who don’t have a support system this is a great option to help with healing.

Embrace New Beginnings

This time of healing causes the need to focus on you. And no, it is not selfish to focus your attention on yourself to heal. Start a new hobby and get out of your comfort zone! Sign up for some art classes. You loved to roller skate when you were young, find the nearest skating rink and start again! Need something to help unwind and relax? Get into the practice of yoga. Take the time to fall in love with you!

Cultivate a positive outlook on love and relationships. Be open to trusting again and creating new beginnings when your heart is ready. We often build a concrete wall around ourselves. We do this to prevent any more pain from entering. What we also prevent from getting in is the opportunity to have true love and friendships.

Heartbreak is something we all will encounter. In the Bible it says trouble will come.

John 16:33

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world”

Through these difficulties God is our refuge and strength. When we seek Him first, he will give us determination to get through the storm. We will gain His peace, love, and joy on the other side. Just like He promised!

Share your own experience with your heartbreak and the steps you took to move forward in the comments.

Janice